Friend or Lover?

Have you ever been in that position where you and your female friend started getting romantically involved? Heck it doesn’t even have to be romance, some of us have ended up in bed with our friends after a long night of partying, it is not unusual. The thing is that it can sometimes change the dynamics of that friendship, sometimes leading to people not talking to each other. It makes us wonder whether it is a good idea or if it should be avoided altogether…

It happens

Life is unpredictable. Sure there are a lot of friends of the opposite sex who end up being more than that, but it is something that we don’t always plan to do. We get on so well that we are comfortable with each other, and before we even know it we end up waking up next to each other. Don’t get us wrong, it can be a very good thing, sometimes the chemistry is way better than having sex with a stranger. The truth is that there are no real rules to tell if it is a good or a bad thing, it all depends on the people and the situation itself.

Friends with benefits

Having a friend that we can also have sex with is actually very convenient, it definitely saves us the time and effort it usually takes to find a partner. Instead of going out to meet new people we can just call that special friend and arrange a naughty hook-up, it’s fast and easy. Plenty of people search online for a fuck buddy but not everyone has the luck of actually getting one. Sure you can find people to have sex with but it’s not the same as actually knowing that person as a friend. Without a doubt, the best fuck buddies are the ones we meet naturally as we are just more comfortable with each other.

Friendship lost

It is not all roses however. Sleeping with an existing friend can actually cause harm to that friendship if we don’t keep each other in check. Let’s say one starts falling in love but not the other, you get an imbalance that will lead to emotions rising high; resulting in arguments and the possible breaking of that friendship. The best way for things to stay at a good level is for the two people to communicate regularly about things. If the situation gets out of control, you can just stop sleeping with each other and you should still be able to salvage your friendship.

Let life take its course

The best things happen naturally, and as such you don’t want to befriend someone just to have sex with them. This feels like lying as you would be approaching a person with false pretences.  If you have a childhood friend then the friendship might also be too strong, you might not want to mess with that. There are plenty of other friends you will meet in life, this is why a lot of people are special friends when they go to places like college or university. The moral of the story is that you can find friends with benefits, you just can’t force it to happen. On the worse case, you can always use adult dating, it works for a lot of people out there and there is no reason it won’t work for you!